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How do you survive at work when you’re
experiencing the gut-wrenching pain of losing a loved one? It’s almost certain that there will come a time when you
ask that question. Here are ten steps to help you use your grief as fuel:
1.
Be grateful
Yes, this is painful stuff. But your perspective
on what’s important in life has shifted dramatically. You may have moments of greater clarity than you’ve had
for a long time. The deep and powerful truth inside of you is speaking up--loud and clear. Listen to it, and take a moment
for gratitude. Say, “I’m so grateful that I’ve chosen to experience this loss because it’s teaching
me what’s most important, what I want to focus on from now on, and how to love in a greater capacity than ever before.”
2. Say hello
Your
loved one hasn’t gone anywhere; she’s in a realm (or a parallel universe) as close to you as the clothes touching
your skin. And she’s trying to get you to be happy, to see all the amazing things that are just around the corner. The
longer you dwell in your grief, she says, the more you delay the good stuff from coming into your life. Live as if you know
she’s watching you. Make her proud. Show her how divine, enlightened, conscious and strong you are. And say hello to
her every now and again.
3. Focus on the future
Of course you’ll spend a while digging up painful memories. That’s part of the process of letting
go. But as soon as possible, ask yourself what you want your life to look like in six months. Linger in the past and you linger
in the pain. Face the future--but only the future that makes you smile. Yes, you have a right to want good things again. It
doesn’t help your deceased loved one for you to dwell in misery. Jump into life again and bless the pain - because it's
fueling you to move forward in a more powerful direction.
4.
Laugh anyway
Yes, it looks like a tragedy when the person you
love has died. But when you understand the divine order of our holographic universe, you begin to understand the absurdity
of our great human experiment. When you throw your head back and laugh outrageously, you’ll feel your loved one laughing
right beside you.
That laughter will do more for raising your energy than
100 grief therapy sessions. Today, make it your mission to go into five people’s offices and not leave until they’re
laughing out loud. You’ll be spreading great energy in the workplace and teaching others an inspired way to grieve--as
well as making your deceased loved one very proud of you.
5. Break your
heart wide open
This is your moment. You’ve been given
this gift to open your heart. Drink in those long-stuffed-away emotions and passions that you’re finally feeling. At
least once a day, feel the pain and cry it out. Research has shown that crying creates a biochemical change in your body that
reduces stress and increases endorphins – the feel-good hormone.
Here’s
a powerful, grief-releasing meditation: every morning and evening, sit for at least ten minutes in prayer or meditation. At
the end of that time, feel the pain in your heart as deeply and authentically as you can. Cry it out. Offer it to the divine
realms. Move it out of your body and to the higher realms.
6. Make new
friends
Take a break from anyone in your life whose energy brings you
down. Surround yourself only with people who have open hearts and minds, and good energy. Walk away from water cooler gossip
because it will only make your pain worse. Every step you take must be towards truth and understanding – or your pain
increases dramatically (because you’re disappointing your higher self which is all revved up by this life-changing experience).
7. Move it up a notch
Sometimes
you’ll have to start the day by simply putting one foot in front of the other, going through the motions and looking
for one thought to think that makes you feel a little better. Try this one: “Today I’m feeling lousy, so I’m
going to bring roses to Linda because she just lost her little dog. (And I know that doing this will ease my own pain as well).”
8. Create your healing work space
Go into your
grey cubicle and fill it with roses, happy pictures and bright colors that make you feel good. The color yellow is very revitalizing
when grief is taking your breath away. Paint your bedroom sunny yellow, and fill your home with bright yellow flowers. The
herb St. John’s Wort, with its startling yellow petals, has healing qualities for people experiencing loss. Grow it
in your garden. Hang pictures of it on your wall.
9. Read something happy
Yes, you may have to slog through those tedious reports at work. But spend ten minutes every hour reading something
uplifting as well. Spend your lunch time reading books that give you a new perspective on life and death. Keep inspiring books
by your bed and read a few pages each night before you fall asleep. You’ll have better dreams and wake up feeling better.
Some suggestions: Saved by the Light by Dannion Brinkley; Holographic Universe by Michael Talbot and Entangled Minds by Dean
Radin.
10. Walk away from fear
You’ve been through a traumatic loss. But when you take a different perspective on it and see it as your gift,
you step into your courage. Stop telling the old story and focus only on what makes you feel better and what you want to happen
next. That forward focus will move you from fear to power. That simple shift will change your life dramatically for the better.
Remember, if you're still here on Planet Earth, it's on purpose. You're not done with your mission yet.
Once you use that grief to redirect your life and work and accomplish your mission, you'll feel much better. See a grief
or career intuitive to help you find your true path...
